Three promotions in four years.
Then seven more years chasing the next one.
When that day finally came...

I felt
nothing.

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I sat in my car in the parking garage for twenty minutes after they told me.

Not happy. Not relieved. Not proud.

Just... nothing.

That's when I knew something was wrong. Not with the job. Not with the promotion. With me.

And I had no idea how to fix it — or if it was even fixable.

It wasn't just the promotion either. It was everywhere. You probably already know the feeling.

You're at a dinner.
Everyone's laughing.
You're hitting every beat —
right jokes, right energy, right face.
Then you drive home in silence and feel the mask come off like peeling a wet shirt.

Your kid runs up excited to show you something and you feel it through a blanket. Their excitement meets the brick wall around your heart.

Your wife reaches for your hand and you notice it three seconds late.

You close a deal that should feel like a win and you're already thinking about the next thing before you even hang up the phone.

Going through the motions of a life that should feel good.
But doesn't.

Why the good stuff disappears too

You've been living a certain way for so long it feels like you. Autopilot. Go to work. Perform. Come home. Repeat.

But here's the part that took me way too long to learn. When you ignore the bad stuff, you also ignore the good stuff. The joy. The excitement. The actual wanting things from your core.

Your nervous system doesn't discriminate. It just shuts down the whole channel.

You're not present.
You're just… here.

So what do you actually do about it?

Not meditate for an hour. Not journal your feelings. Not another 5am routine that becomes another thing to fail at.

These things can help, but it's like tying your boat to the dock with a rope made of paper.

You do the work that reconnects you to yourself. And no, it's not going to magically fix your life without you doing any work. Your life might even look pretty similar on the outside.

But here's what changes: you get to actually live it. Instead of watching it pass you by.

The Process

What working with me looks like

The BLOOM methodology is the framework I built this program around. Not borrowed — built from my own experience doing this work, from the psychology I studied, and from the men I've coached. It runs on ACT, the most empirically supported behavioral change framework available for exactly the pattern you're in. Five steps. Each one earns the next. Here's how it works.

8 sessions. Every week, we start with wherever you actually are. What happened. What you noticed. What you didn't want to notice. The session follows that — not a script, not a course.

B Step 01
Be Present

Most men I work with don't realize how checked out they are until we slow down enough to look. We start by mapping your personal autopilot — the thoughts, situations, and habits that reliably pull you out of the present moment. Not just in retrospect. In real time. Then we find the one or two anchors that actually work for your nervous system and build them into your life. Not a meditation program. Just something that brings you back.

From: High-functioning but running on empty  →  To: Able to notice when you've drifted — and actually return

L Step 02
Let Go

Your mind has a story about who you are, what you're worth, and what you're allowed to want. It's been running that story on repeat for years. This step is about learning to unhook from it — not silence it, not fight it, just stop letting it be the one driving. We find your specific avoidance patterns, the feelings and memories your whole life has been quietly organized around not having, and we learn to see them for what they are.

From: Controlled by the story your mind tells  →  To: Can observe your mind without being driven by it

O Step 03
Open to Desire

Not goals. Not what got you here. Not what earns approval. What you — underneath the performance and the pressure — actually want your life to feel like. Most men have no idea. That's normal. We find it together. Then we do the work most programs skip entirely: being able to claim it without immediately judging yourself for wanting it. Knowing what you want and being willing to say it out loud are completely different skills. We build both.

From: Numb, chasing what you think you should want  →  To: Know what lights you up — and can claim it without shame

O Step 04
Operate from Choice

This is where the internal work meets your actual life. You start making decisions from your values instead of from habit, fear, or the identity you've been performing for 20 years. We do the identity bridge work — naming what you're leaving behind, beginning to articulate who you're becoming. And we build the daily and weekly structures that make values-based living the default, not something that requires heroic effort to maintain.

From: Reactive, running old identity scripts  →  To: Decisions made from who you are, not who you were

M Step 05
Make Moments Matter

The last step is integration — all five skills running together, in your real life, in the domains that matter most to you. We build your closing practice, train the pause before the next thing, and learn to extract meaning from the full spectrum — not just the wins. This is also where we sit with your assessment scores from Week 0 and Week 8 side by side. You see your own psychological movement in data. Not just feeling. This is your proof.

From: Life is a checklist you survive and optimize  →  To: Life is something you actively inhabit and savour

Every session starts with where you are that week. Some sessions we'll spend the whole hour on one moment that happened with your kid. Others we'll work a pattern you've been running for 20 years.

The roadmap is the direction. Your life is the path.

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Damion Loringer

She walked right past her mom and her grandmother.

I've been deployed three times. Once for over a year. When you're gone that long, mom becomes the default. That's just how it goes.

I spent a long time trying to close that gap — showing up more, being more present, actually doing the work I now help other men do.

Then one afternoon my mother-in-law was visiting. We were all downstairs talking. My daughter came down from upstairs, walked right past her mom and grandma, and came directly to me to ask a question. I don't even remember what it was. She said okay and skipped back upstairs.

When I looked up, my wife and her mom were both staring at me. My mother-in-law was a little offended. My wife was somewhere between proud and annoyed. They hadn't noticed how often she was coming to specifically me. They were even a little jealous.

I didn't know what to say. It just felt normal.

That's what I want for you. Not performance. Not trying. Just being there. Actually there.

Background U.S. Air Force — 12+ years, high-pressure leadership
Education Bachelor's in Psychology · Certified Master Resiliency Trainer
Coaching ACT-based methodology · ICF Certification in Progress

What You Get

8 weeks.
Just you and me.

You're not buying 8 sessions and a document.

You're buying the moment your kid comes downstairs, walks right past everyone else, and comes to you — and it just feels normal.

You're buying the dinner where you're actually there. The drive home where the silence feels like peace instead of emptiness. The Sunday morning where you don't feel the familiar nothing. You feel whole. The "I actually made it" feeling you've been chasing your whole life.

Here's what's included:

The BLOOM Journey
8 Sessions, 1:1
One 90-minute session to orient and build your baseline — not the presenting problem, the real one. Seven 60-minute sessions after that, weekly. The session follows wherever you actually are that week. The program has a direction. Your life is the path.
S 1–2Be Present — Wake up from autopilot. Find your anchor.
S 3–4Let Go — Unhook from the story your mind has been running.
S 5Open to Desire — Figure out what you actually want, underneath the performance.
S 6–7Operate from Choice — Make decisions from who you are, not who you were.
S 8Make Moments Matter — Integration. Payoff. The life you built, finally lived.
The BLOOM Assessment Suite
Four validated psychological instruments — CompACT, WHO-5, Flourishing Scale, Bullseye Values — measured at three points: Week 0 before we start, Week 4 mid-program so you can see your own movement while you're still in it, and Week 8 for the full before-and-after.
4 instruments 3 measurement points

Most coaches only ask how you feel. I ask that too — but you'll have the data to back it up.

Async Support
Between Sessions
When something comes up mid-week — a conversation that didn't go right, a pattern you just noticed, a moment that cracked something open — you don't wait until next week. Send me a message. I respond. Momentum doesn't die because the session ended.
BLOOM Client Portal
Your home base for the program. Assessments, resources, session context — all in one place. Not just a calendar link and a Stripe receipt.
Your Personalized
BLOOM Playbook
Delivered at Week 8. Built from your 8 weeks — your patterns, your assessment results, the tools that actually worked for you, and your map forward. This is the difference between "I felt better during coaching" and "I know how to do this now." The Playbook is how you keep going on your own without losing the ground you gained.

Investment: $3,500

$3,500 for the full 8 weeks — with a psychologically trained coach running an evidence-based methodology, and three-point measurement to prove it worked.

You've spent more than that trying to feel something. The gear. The trips. The productivity systems. The therapy sessions that felt like checking boxes. This is the work underneath all of that.

The Guarantee

If you show up and do the work, you will feel genuinely different by Week 8. Not fixed. Not done. But more present, more alive, and more like yourself than you've felt in years.

If you don't — we keep working until you do.

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Who this is for

This is for you if

  • Your kid asks to play and your first thought is "how long will this take"
  • You're sitting across from your wife at a nice restaurant and realize you've been planning tomorrow's meetings the whole time
  • You've tried the meditation apps, the therapy sessions, the self-help books — and you still feel like you're watching your life through a window
  • You bought something expensive last month and can't remember what it was or why you thought it would help
  • You've had the thought mid-win, mid-dinner, mid-whatever — "I should be happier than this." And then kept moving.

This is NOT for you if

  • You're looking for a quick fix
  • You just want someone to tell you what to do
  • You're not willing to look at what's going on underneath your behavior, only what you're doing
  • You're not willing to be uncomfortable. This work gets uncomfortable. That's how it works.
  • You need it to stay surface level. It won't.
  • Some men haven't cried in years. Most of them cry at some point in this program. That's not a side effect — that's the work doing what it's supposed to do.
  • You're in active mental health crisis — this is coaching, not clinical care. If you're dealing with suicidal thoughts, severe depression, or trauma that needs clinical support, I'll help you find the right resource. But this program isn't it.

Here's what the hustle guys won't tell you

Grinding harder doesn't fix this. Another morning routine won't fix it. Another productivity system, another optimization, another thing to track — none of it touches what's actually going on.

Because this isn't a performance problem. It's a presence problem.

Here's what happens if you keep ignoring it:

In five years you're sitting in that same parking garage after your kid's graduation, or your 20th anniversary dinner, or the promotion you thought would finally make you feel something.

And you still feel nothing. Except now you're 45. Or 50. And the gap between you and your own life has gotten wider.

Your kid stopped asking you to play years ago. Your wife stopped trying to have real conversations. And you've gotten so good at the performance that nobody even notices anymore.

Except you.

You notice in the shower. In the car. At 2am when you can't sleep.

You've been telling yourself this is just how it is. That you're fine. That you'll feel it eventually.

But you know
that's bullshit.
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A few questions you might have

Before you apply

You don't need to know. Most people start here. They know what they don't want — this empty feeling — but they have no idea what they do want. That's normal. We'll figure it out together. The work isn't about forcing a grand vision. It's about clearing enough of the noise that you can finally hear what's actually there underneath.

That's actually why this works. You're not adding another 5am routine. Most days it's noticing what you're feeling while you're already doing something — driving, eating breakfast, sitting with your kid. The work happens in your real life, not in addition to it. Doing nothing takes just as much energy as doing this. It just feels different because you're used to it.

No. But it might feel therapeutic. This is coaching based on psychology and real-world tools for high-performers. I'm not diagnosing anything or treating mental health conditions. I'm helping you reconnect with the parts of yourself you've been ignoring so you can actually show up for your life. If you need therapy, I'll tell you. If you need coaching, we'll get to work.

Some men notice huge shifts in the first two weeks. Others take longer. It depends on how long you've been numb and how willing you are to do the work. But if you show up and stay in the conversation — you will feel like a different person by Week 8. Not fixed. Not done. But different. More present. More alive. More like yourself.

$3,500 for the full 8 weeks. Everything is included — all 8 sessions, the full assessment suite with three measurement points, async support between sessions, the client portal, and your personalized BLOOM Playbook delivered at Week 8.

This isn't another thing to try. This is the work that actually changes how you show up. For yourself. For your family. For your life.

One more thing.

I know you're used to figuring things out on your own. That's probably how you got here — working hard, pushing through, handling your shit. And that's served you well.

Until it didn't.

Because this isn't a problem you can solve the same way you solved the others. You can't optimize your way out of being numb. You can't logic your way back to feeling.

You need someone who's been there. Someone who understands what it's like to have everything on paper and nothing on the inside. Someone who knows how to help you reconnect without turning it into another performance.

That's what I do. The question is whether you're ready to stop watching and start living.

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Application

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If everything you've read has felt true — this is the next step. Answer a few short questions. I read every application personally and respond within 48 hours. If it's a good fit, we'll talk. If it's not, I'll tell you that too.

I'm one person giving each client my full attention — I can only work with a small number of men at a time. If I'm full, I'll let you know and add you to the waitlist.